Gostosa Hair:My Spring Weave Makeover!

Spring is here and Sunmer is right around the corner. You can now pull out your colorful outfits and get your hair from under those big bulky hats and finally let your hair blow in the wind.

This Winter I wasn’t concerned about my hair as much and I kept it in weaves, wigs, and other protective styles. My goal was something that would last and was decent. I was throwing a hat on my head 80% of the time so I didn’t need a style too dramatic. 

However Spring snuck in and I started to realize I had a few trips and things coming up and my little “quick weaves” and basic styles weren’t going to do the trick. I wanted a sew in that cold be versatile while still being cute.

My Baecation was slowly approaching and I was super excited to get sexy and beautiful for my husband. So I wanted my weave long and wavy (that’s his favorite lol)! I also knew we would be going out of the country and traveling to the Bahamas so I need quality hair that can stand the test of salt water from the ocean and chlorine from the jacuzzis and pools! I didn’t want nothing I had to constantly keep up with I wanted carefree hair while looking like a million bucks! Was that a lot to ask for? Lol.

I found the perfect extension company to fit the bill and an amazing stylist as well. They are truly a dream team! They are officially my glam squad! The products, the service, and the entire experience has truly been amazing.

I posted my Spring Weave Make Over pictures on my social media accounts and everyone went crazy. I got inboxes, shares, retweets and tons of comments! I felt like a millions bucks! And when my husband and oldest son saw me they really made me feel like a star. I was officially addicted to Gostosa Hair Extensions and Deecann Style!

The Gostosa Hair Extensions company carries several different types of virgin hair: straight, wavy, and even curly! I was sold on the company after I read up on how they treat their hair and wash the chemicals away from the extensions. That’s so important when you are buying hair as an investment because you want the best and you want to be able to reinstall your hair more than once so quality is key! 

Now let’s get to the good stuff, I know you to see pictures and hear about pattern I got and my overall thoughts. I will spill the beans, but I will let you know this will be a 3 part series because I’ve done so much with this hair I want to give you guys all the info!

My appointment with Traveling Mizani Hair Stylist DeeCannStyle was at 10am a week before my Baecation. I picked that date because it worked best for my husband’s work schedule and I wanted a day to get pampered and not feel rushed or worry about the kids so I selected a day Dennis would be off so he could stay with the kids. That worked out perfectly. Dionna’s salon is in the South Loop and wasn’t far from my home at all. Once I was dropped off I didn’t have to wait to get my natural locks washed and detangled. Dionna took her time untangling my hair softly and carefully since I’m tender headed I winced a few times just for the effect LOL. She was gentle and she educated me on my hair as she washed and deep conditioned it. After my hair was all cleaned and conditioned we went to her station where she blow dried my hair and also gave my ends a healthy trim. It was definitely needed! 

Now I met with Dionna and also the owner of Gostosa Hair Extensions Mrs. Herzog for an hair consult the day prior to my appointment. They were both very educated on hair health and what extensions worked best in different environments. Dionna asked what type of look I was going for and I stressed that I wanted my hair style to be as carefree as possible for my trip and upcoming events as well as healthy on my damaged hair. After seeing that my edges were thinning we decided on a middle part to give my edges a rest and help them grow while still giving me a sexy middle part to rock. The hair was selected was truly gorgeous! Gostosa Hair Extensions Indian Temple Hair. This hair is amazing. The natural state is wavy, soft, and luxe. The maintenance for this hair isn’t major and that’s a really impressive feature for me because I wanted to look good without a lot of effort (I am a mom of 2. Lol)

Dionna did a braid pattern that was so flat I couldn’t even believe it! As she did my sew in I didn’t feel any real pain and thats so uncommon I have millions of sew ins and I’m in pain by the first track but not with Dionna she took her time and she made me feel comfortable. I was on snap chat, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram posting my process and she was so warm and welcoming. She explained to me with the type of hair I was getting installed I could get my hair wet and the waves would pop back in place. She also told me that she has used the Indian Temple hair a few times her self and she was in love with it. 

My hair was done before I knew it and I was smiling so hard! The hair looked amazing without even being flat ironed or curled. Just a little of my natural hair was left out and it blended so well you couldn’t tell where it ended or started! The Indian Temple hair is so versatile and light. It was able to lay flat while still giving me the bounce and body I needed. 

When I stood up I felt good. My sister always says “when you look good you feel good” and that’s so true. I felt like a hot momma! Every woman should feel like that. No questions asked!

I had a 26″,28″, 28″ installed. Dionna just trimmed slightly to frame my face but none of my wrefts were cut so I can keep using this hair for different installs. This hair is perfect for the mom on the go to the fashionista! It can be curled, dyed, blow dried, cut and everything else you can do to hair. It’s virgin hair at its finest! Gostosa Hair Extensions have a hit in their hands! Guess what guys they are holding a promotion now that if you purchase hair online you get 10% off your order! This a sale you don’t want to miss! Visit Gostosa Hair Extensions today!

Special thanks to Mrs. Herzog for allowing me to rock your Luxe Hair line! Gostosa Hair Extensions is the truth and I can’t wait to try your other hair selections as well. Thank you to DeeCannStyle for using your blessed hands on my happy head LOL this is the best sew in I’ve ever had! Can’t wait to sit back in your chair again!

Part 2 of my Gostosa Hair Experience will drop soon. Stay tuned!

IMPORTANT: NEW URL! Nothing Beats a Failure but a Try!

True story. I have been battling with switching to my own domain name for a while. Don’t get me wrong I am sort of tech savvy. I can get around and get things done, but when you talk about urls and HTMLs I am completely lost. LOST! So when I decided to get my own domain name I bought it and sat on it. I talked to a few people about moving my site and transferring things from my WordPress.com account and everyone wanted big money or didn’t seem interested in doing it because obviously its tedious. One late night I just sat at my laptop and began reading about exporting and importing items from WordPress. I felt inspired so I starting saving my files and setting up my hosting and things began to fall in place. I just knew I messed up something because things were going to smooth, but to my shock I successfully switched everything on my own, correctly. After all the stress and tension from the transfer I didn’t even have the mental stability to blog or doing anything with my website. Last night I finally felt a little daring and I started messing with themes and templates as you can see I am now going with a basic and classic look because all the high tech looking ones had me smoking cigarettes trying to figure them out (I don’t smoke) so I decided to get a graphic designer to do handle that aspect. We can’t win them all. LOL.

The fact that I can’t really design my blog website like I want isn’t a big issue to me because I know nothing about graphic design, however I am extremely proud of myself for not only researching how to move a blog and setting up my own domain with hosting, but I actually did it all by my lonesome. This small victory reminded me that “nothing beats a failure, but a try” yep, the old tired saying that we tell our kids all the time. It actually hit home and helped me realize that with the help of God any and all things are possible. Trust me I called His name a few times while switching things around. LOL. Trying to do something that is difficult shows your courage rather you achieve your goal or not. Never feel like a loser because something just didn’t work, the only important thing is that you tried. We will all face something in our lives that is or looks complicated and we need to make sure we have the mind set to get the job done.

Just wanted to share my victory with you guys and to also encourage you to keep trying no matter what! Oh and update your records you can find me here http://www.aRealUrbanMom.com baby!!

P.s. This Post is old. I’ve been blogging at the new URL for a week and I didn’t give you guys a head up. Sorry:) But come visit me over at the New URL and make sure you subscribe over there. Thanks!!


A Real Urban Mom goes to Disney on ice: Princess and Heroes

Two weeks ago I took the kiddos out for a surprise! They didn’t know where we were headed but they were really excited. When we pulled up to the United center they jumped out because they knew it was either a Bulls game or a Disney on ice show. Well its was the Disney on Ice: Princess and Heroes and they couldn’t control their excitement. We had a blast. Check out some of the pics below:






The thing I likes about this show was the fact it was good for kids all ages and the it was unisex. My kiddo enjoyed it just as much as my little sister who is obsessed with the whole thought of princesses. When comes to town don’t miss it! There are always money savings coupons out there thanks to America’s Family Guide. Save up to 40% on Disney on Ice tickets in Chicago! – Code: MOM

A Real Urban Mom at the 2014 Bud Billiken Parade!

Let me first say the Bud Billiken Parade this year was amazing! I want to thank the Chicagoland BMOA for inviting me and the kiddos abroad their Ronald McDonald float. We had a blast!

The weather was perfect, nice and sunny! This being the first float I’ve been on did make me a little nervous, I didn’t know what to expect and I didn’t want to do anything embarrassing like fall. Lol. The camera crews were every where and people were snapping pictures all over the place. Even though I kept my smile camera ready, Dereon and Dionne didn’t. I of course had to remind them we may be on TV (which we were) and that them arguing with each other on a float wasn’t safe. Sigh. They eventually got over the disagreement and jumped overly excited once they spotted our family in the crowd!

To see so many people all smiling, waving and cheering you on is such a good feeling. I wish I could bottle it up inside and open it on the days I feel down. Because the experience was wonderful.

Another awesome aspect of this year’s Bud (a Chicago nickname for the parade) was that my teen sister Eboni performed with the South Shore Drill Team. She was decked out in makeup and their custom costumes. It was such a proud moment to see her dance with her group after seeing her practice for months! So kudos to my little Big sister Eb!


The Chicagoland BMOA always invites us to amazing events and I’m blessed to be a part of their blogging family. Please check out their site you will be amazed on how much they do for the black community.Β 

Here are a few pictures from our experience:


(Thanks Nisha Bonds for this photo!)



Blogger Luvvie and I were Float mates!


The kids chilling under the arch, probally arguing lol.


Told you we were on TV! Lol. (Yes I took a picture of the TV. Haha)

Thanks for all the support, pics, retweets and love!

Washing clothes using natural detergent and common household products!

Cleaning clothes is one chore I actually don’t mind doing. I love the smell of clean clothes. Although I do hate folding. Lol. We have a lot of laundry that I have to tackle so I am always on the look out for quick tips and great products. I am a random chore person which means I don’t have a certain day to do a certain task I just know what I have to do and try to get as much of it done in a day as I can. Even though our household only consist of three people, don’t let that fool you I wash clothes often. Dereon wears uniform to school and then comes home to change into ‘play clothes’ which doubles his weekly load, not including my clothes and my husband’s stuff as well.

So when I was sent Safonique in Lavender Sea with pure essential oils to review I got excited. The detergent comes in a plastic pouch that is 50 fluid ounces and can do 32 loads since it is concentrated times two! Another cool thing about the pouch is that it reduces waste by up to 78% versus standard detergents in rigid platstic containers. The packaging says that it is “The revolution in laundry detergent. Best in clean – best in green!” I couldn’t wait to test it out and see what it really could do.

Once I opened the container I instantly fell in love with the scent. It wasn’t too strong, but you can surely smell the lavender. After the clothes are washed the scent lingers and that’s important to me because I like clothes to smell clean. Another plus is the formula is hypoallergenic and can be used for babies to adults. Also the formula works for standard and high efficiency washers and all water temperatures.

Overall I am very pleased with Safonique. I loved the fact that it is available at Walmart and that the price is only $6.97! The cleaning power is pretty impressive I didn’t have any issues with left over stains and that is shocking because I have an active 7 year old that seems to get stains from anything and everywhere. Safonique has a great lasting smell, thick solution that creates small suds, and its available for a low price. The most important question you probably have is would I buy this again with my own money? Yes, I would buy this brand again with my own money for my family and I.

Quick mommy tip!
In addition to using detergent I always add 1/2 cup of white distilled vinegar to each load. Vinegar helps with stinky smells, stains, and it soften clothes. You can find half a gallon containers of it at any grocery store for about $3. I swear by this technique because its cost effective and extremely helpful. Sometimes we over look common household items and pick stuff with a million different chemicals that dull the colors of our clothes. I encourage you to try different products with fewer chemicals and test them out, you will be surprised!

* I was given this product in exchange for my honest review. All thoughts are my own.

How to style and manage Box Braids (while protecting your natural hair)!

I love weave. Yes, I do! That statement shouldn’t be a surprise to those that follow me on social media. I have hardly no pictures of me wearing my natural locks. The main reason is because I decided to go natural about a year and a half ago after a horrible over processed perm incident. My hair was so thin and damaged I began to transition by growing my hair out without a perm. The two different textures were killing me so I finally cut all my permed hair off June 2013. My husband came in the bathroom and stood in shock. I had about an inch or two of natural hair coiled on the top of my head. I was scared at that point because I couldn’t put my hair in a quick pony or get some of the latest styles out so of course Youtube was my best friend. I begin looking for styles that I could do while growing my natural hair out. I wore sew ins and quick weaves until my hair was long enough for braids and then once I reached braiding length I knew I would be okay in this journey because braids are EVERYTHING!

Fast forward to the present. My natural hair is growing I can put my hair in a pony tail, I can get a sew in, braids, etc. My current obsession has been Box Braids. They are cute, affordable, easy to maintain, and did I say cute already? I have a Chicagoland hair braider that comes to me and does all the latest braid styles. Since I am ‘tender headed’ I dread the process of braids, but love the aftermath.

With me being on a healthy hair journey taking care of my braids as well as my natural hair underneath is very important. I don’t want my protective style to become harmful. I moisturize my hair and tend to my edges every other day because I want to ensure growth. Below is a video on how I take care of my Box braids. Thanks to Natasha from The Houseful of Nicholes for the Dream Kids products!